Tuesday, February 15, 2011

Mum stuff | Its okay to lose...

Today, Sethy-boy competed in his first school swimming carnival. To say I was worried was an understatement. Seth has regularly been attending swimming lessons for years, but he's never swum more than 14m straight. Last night, Andrew consulted his swim coach to see if she thought he was up to swimming 25m, to which she said..."put him in the 50m! ...and if they're doing back stroke, put him in that too!". We were still not convinced, and left the choice up to him.
The time came. Seth lined up at the end of the pool to swim in the 25m freestyle race...and off they went. Andrew tells me that he did really well until the end. There were Year 6 boys at the other end waiting for them in case they got into trouble, and the boy in Seth's lane swam out to get him which slowed him down.  After he got out of the pool, they called me...

me: "How did you go mate?"
Seth: "I came last." You could hear in his voice that he was really disappointed.
me: "That's okay. Did you make it to the end?"
Seth: "Yes, but it was very tiring, and I came last."
me: "But did you have fun?"
Seth: "Yes I did." You could hear his attitude picking up.
me: "That's great buddy! I'm so proud of you!"
Seth: "Thanks mum. It was great being in the pool!"

I'm so proud that Seth had a go, and tried his hardest. I'm a firm believer that it doesn't matter where you place, as long as you do your best. I'm not one of those mothers that thinks every child should get a trophy. Its excellent character building to feel defeat occasionally. How else do you learn to try harder?

Seth has always had a great attitude when it comes to sport. During rugby league season, he's a little dynamo and can tackle kids literally more than a foot taller than him. He's fast, he's enthusiastic and always gives his best. He's the team mate who cheers up the other boys if they lose, and the first one to congratulate someone if they score a try. Love that.

Now Seth knows he can swim 25m, and he'll do it again.  Next year, maybe he'll tackle the 50!

Cheers, Lis.

7 comments:

Beth Tahiri Photography said...

oh my gosh, your story brought a tear to my eye. Brings back memories of when I came last in the half marathon I ran. Nothing can beat the feeling of finishing something.
I am so proud of Seth. It so important to try, wondering 'what if' can hang over your head for the rest of your life.

Renee maree said...

Nice Lisa you should be so proud of him and you are such a great mum!!! I always love hearing your mum stories and use your inspiration in my own life!! Cheers to you ren xoxo

Sharon said...

Love your little stories Lisa. At least you know if he fell in the water he can save himself and that is the main reason to learn to swim. So oneday he may not be an olympic swimmer but he may be a State of Origin rugby player. We can't all be good at everything so good on you for being a proud mum. He's a lucky boy!

KimA said...

Good on you Seth! I always say to Benson it is not about winning, it is about always trying your hardest and giving things a go.

Chloe and Her Clip On Koalas said...

Awesome photos! Love a mumma who raises their son to be so self confident through clever questioning and ignoring the negatives. Such a beautiful moment for you.

Felicity said...

Seth.. you are AMAZING!!! firstly you attempted something you have never done before AND you did in front of your peers!!! TRULY amazing!!!
I would be proud to Lisa and totally agree wholeheartly, you must try no matter what :))
x

The Scrapbook Speedway said...

wtg seth! a great and wonderful story to remember and document! your'e a wonderful mum!

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